If you’re anything like me, you may have already messed up on your New Year’s Resolution. One last snack… One more morning sleeping in… I’ll start next week… Sound familiar?
Don’t worry if your perfect record hasn’t even lasted a week. The reality is the only way to finish is to finish messy.
If you read one book about goals this year or are planning to set goals, then you need to read FINISH by Jon Acuff. If I could recommend only one book about self-development that I read last year, it would be this one.
One of my favorite things this book does is expose the lies of perfectionism. Trying to maintain ridiculously high standard and the appearance of perfection sets us up for failure. It may even be a way we can make excuses for not finishing. “Ugh, I slipped up. Goals over I guess! Back to life as usual. Nom, nom, nom (that’s my eating junk food noise).”
In Finish Jon says, “perfectionism is a desperate attempt to live up to impossible standards. Perfectionism will do anything to protect those impossible standards. It can’t let you find out how impossible they are, especially with the cold eye of data, so it terrifies you into thinking that you’ll be crushed by disappointment if you peer behind that curtain.”
He continues with, “But more than just analysis, perfectionism offers us two distinct distractions: Hiding places Noble obstacles A hiding place is an activity you focus on instead of your goal. A noble obstacle is a virtuous-sounding reason for not working toward a finish. Both are toxic to your ability to finish.”
Lets Talk About Goals
We are starting the second week of the year, and maybe you have realized you are not perfect and are ready to give up. I want to encourage you to keep going. I am going to write a series of blogs over the few weeks on goals. My goal, with my blogs about goals, is to encourage you to keep going right here at the beginning when many people give up.
Come back next week to check them out. Let me know what you are doing to attain your goals this year. You may even disagree with some of my approaches. I’d like to hear from you about that as well.
And remember, check out this excellent book by Jon Acuff. He is also a great follow on Twitter. I got the audible version, and I loved hearing Jon read the book himself. Very entertaining! Felt like we were sharing a bowl of queso and laughing together as I learned about setting and finishing my goals.