Spiritual Life

DON’T MARRY YOUR PLANS

by: Kevin Miller

Marriage is meant to be a lifelong covenant, unbroken by even the most challenging circumstances. That’s how marriage should be, but sometimes we mistakenly approach our own plans, timelines, and agendas with that same commitment. Then when they fall apart, we’re distraught and confused.

Make plans, but don’t marry them.

Planning is wise, but hold your plans with an open hand as you trust God to steer the course of your life. Here’s how Solomon put it…

“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”

— Proverbs 16:3 —

Committing your work to the Lord means doing whatever you’re doing to honor Him. Could you go to that school/marry that person/do that on the weekend/take that promotion as a way of honoring Jesus?

Yes? Do it!

No? Don’t waste your time.

“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”

— Proverbs 16:9 —

Verse 3 and verse 9 go hand in hand, reminding us of the importance of planning, but allowing God to lead the way. Proverbs talks a lot about the importance of planning, strategizing, and preparing for the future, but there’s a danger in becoming too attached to our plans. Avoid the temptation to make plans and ask God to bless them. Instead, get in the habit of being led by God in your planning. He promises to establish (make firm and sure) your steps.

“Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.”

— Proverbs 16:18 —

Pride leads us to the false notion that our plans, our timeline, and our desires are the best. Pride gives us tunnel vision with our way of doing things. Solomon warns us here of the devastating consequences of pride: it will inevitably lead to a fall. We all know that is not what we are aiming for! We avoid the fall by avoiding pride and we avoid pride by cultivating a spirit of humility. And by the way, humility isn’t thinking less of yourself (“I’m no good… I’m not gifted… I’m not that great…”), humility is thinking of yourself less.

“Whoever gives thought to the word will discover good, and blessed is he who trusts in the Lord.”

— Proverbs 16:20 —

LIVE BY THIS VERSE! If you will live by this, you’ll never go wrong. In fact, any time you look back on your life and see that you’ve gone astray, I guarantee you can analyze the situation and realize you did not “give thought to the word” and/or “trust in the Lord.”

“The lot is cast into the lap, but its every decision is from the Lord.”

— Proverbs 16:33 —

Some of God’s favorite pseudonyms to work under are “coincidence” and “it just so happened.” God is intricately involved in the details of our lives and constantly weaving them together to point us closer to Him. Trust Him, even when life feels “random.”

Contributor: Kevin Miller

Kevin and a small team of four planted Awaken Church in Clarksville, TN in 2009, where he is the Lead Pastor. He and his wife, Jenn, have three kids, Emery, Adalyn, and Haddon. Kevin enjoys writing and recently released his first book, Better Than Gold, A Journey Through Proverbs. You can connect with him at kevmill.com.

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